We all need tools. We all use tools.

Some of our tools or "coping mechaisms” are unhealthy and lead to greater dysregulation. Unhealthy tools can include": sugar, busyness, social media, caffeine, alcohol, drugs, isolation, dissociation, shopping etc.

Nervous system and state regulation is the goal. The more regulated we are, the more JOY is available to us. When we are regulated, greater connection and social engagement is available to us. We have greater ease in our relationships. For example, when I am able to stay better regulated, I laugh at my husband’s puns more often, I don’t take things so personally, I am present when my son who has Autism is irritable, experiencing big emotions, or having a meltdown.

When we, as individuals, are regulated and our children or partners are experiencing dysregulation, we have a greater chance of keeping our higher brain online and can choose a response instead of an impulsive reaction. Sound nice? It is. And, it’s possible.

It’s not an instant switch. This takes practice. I teach my clients why this matters, how it works, and to share the tools that have helped me on journey. We all may have some tools that work better that others, but there are general foundations that help us ALL. Nature. Mindfulness Practices. Movement. Journaling. Prayer. Self Compassion. Friendship.